I don’t have control over anything or anyone.
I can only control myself.
So I choose to be kind….
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Past, Present and Future…
I couldn’t have said this any better.
But How can we be in the present when what happened to us in the past has is always on our minds and it makes us constantly stressed and anxious about the future?
Would you like to know how? Let me know if I can help you with this?
Lets Talk Wellness….Kindness
KIndness
We all need kindness. Research has shown that kindness has a positive effect, not just on those receiving kindness but also those who are performing acts of kindness. Kindness can help to reduce stress and anxiety and release feel-good chemicals in our brain to help us feel happier. Kindness also builds strong communities and helps us feel connected. It determines what kind of home-life we have, what kind of schools we have, what kind of communities we have, and ultimately what kind of world we live in!
Kindness starts with being kind to ourselves. We have show kindness to ourselves first, only then we can be kind to others. But how?
We often talk about ‘being kind to ourselves’; but when depression has us in its grasp, it can feel hard to like ourselves enough to carry out basic self-care, never mind to show ourselves kindness. It’s even harder to practice self-kindness when we can’t think where we could start or when it feels like an alien habit, so here are a few ideas to get us going.
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Give Forgiveness A Try…WHY?
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
We may get hurt in our lives by the acts of others whether it is something someone says or does to you or someone else. If we don’t forgive that person, we may never be able to move forward. It is like the snake bite, it is not the actual bite that will kill you, it is the poison of the bite that will kill you unless you find away to get it out. Like the poison, if you are holding on to the anger it will fester, like the poison. You will never be able to move on and forward.
The funny thing about forgiveness, if you don’t practice it, you will never be able to let go to move forward and once you keep forgiving you will find you will be able to let things go and forgiveness is no longer necessary.
That is what I have found. My father died of cancer when I was 18 and for years I had held on to the memory of his death and how painful it was. I couldn’t even talk about his death without it bringing tears to my eyes.
I actually eventually learnt a process on forgiveness, in fact it was a decision to forgive myself, others and all situations to allow myself to let go of all the stories and now it’s easy to let things go. Life is much easier. Actually I found there is nothing to forgive because it’s just a story in my mind.
You can start by thinking of a person you are angry at or a situation you have experienced and cannot let go of it. Experience your emotions and feelings and give yourself permission to let go. Let go of each feeling as it comes up, bad and good. Let yourself become empty until there is nothing left. Now think of that situation or person, how do you feel? Can you now forgive them? If you still feel negative emotion, then use this to experience it and let it go. You may find that you are the person you need to forgive.
Can you relate to this? Let me know your opinions?
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